Thursday, 16 July 2009

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Indians to work in the Caribbean as laborers. The first ship arrived in 5 May 1838. Majority of the Indian arrived from Uttar Pradesh and Bihar. And an equal numbers from South India from the states of Andhra Pradesh and Tamilnadu. In some parts of Caribbean, Indian origin population are highest, and in rest of the Caribbean island, it is ranked 2nd.But the most sort after are desi NRI living in United States and other western countries.Here are some beautiful photo collection of NRI desi girls enjoying their holidays aboard in their swimwear and bikini. Hope you too enjoy. In hubPages, there are several hubs devoted to NRI girls - Non-Resident Indians. Photo collection of girls who have migrated aboard couple of generation ago are most wanted on the net. In various forum , social networking sites, there are such hot collection of photos - some are partying girls - and a lot more are on the beach side. They are willing to pose in seductive dress to please the ever hungry India young boys.for those young boys, presenting here are some hot collection of NRI - our own Non-resident Indian girls partying aboard. The original desi girls are either born and brought up there or have moved years ago!Enjoy and send in your comments. Also you can add or send you own such photos for inclusion into my Gallery No.2. attractive. Check out the recent Hubpages or HubGalleries of these NRI desi girl seriesBiggest NRI population is in United Arab Emirates – estimated to be around 14 lakhs (1.4 millions) with another million or so in Saudi Arabia, Kuwait and Bahrain, and other gulf countries.There is also a large population of desi living in Caribbean. Way back in 1838 to 1917, when slavery was abolished, there was a huge demand for labor and manpower. Caribbean was under British and so was India at that time. So the British under its Raj, brought ship loads of Indians to work in the Caribbean as laborers. The first ship arrived in 5 May 1838. Majority of the Indian arrived from Uttar Pradesh and Bihar. And an equal numbers from South India from the states of Andhra Pradesh and Tamilnadu. In some parts of Caribbean, Indian origin population are highest, and in rest of the Caribbean island, it is ranked 2nd.But the most sort after are desi NRI living in United States and other western countries.Here are some beautiful photo collection of NRI desi girls enjoying their holidays aboard in their swimwear and bikini. Hope you too enjoy. In hubPages, there are several hubs devoted to NRI girls - Non-Resident Indians. Photo collection of girls who have migrated aboard couple of generation ago are most wanted on the net. In various forum , social networking sites, there are such hot collection of photos - some are partying girls - and a lot more are on the beach side. They are willing to pose in seductive dress to please the ever hungry India young boys.for those young boys, presenting here are some hot collection of NRI - our own Non-resident Indian girls partying aboard. The original desi girls are either born and brought up there or have moved years ago!Enjoy and send in your comments. Also you can add or send you own such photos for inclusion into my Gallery No.2. attractive. Check out the recent Hubpages or HubGalleries of these NRI desi girl seriesBiggest NRI population is in United Arab Emirates – estimated to be around 14 lakhs (1.4 millions) with another million or so in Saudi Arabia, Kuwait and Bahrain, and other gulf countries.There is also a large population of desi living in Caribbean. Way back in 1838 to 1917, when slavery was abolished, there was a huge demand for labor and manpower. Caribbean was under British and so was India at that time. So the British under its Raj, brought ship loads of Indians to work in the Caribbean as laborers. The first ship arrived in 5 May 1838. Majority of the Indian arrived from Uttar Pradesh and Bihar. And an equal numbers from South India from the states of Andhra Pradesh and Tamilnadu. In some parts of Caribbean, Indian origin population are highest, and in rest of the Caribbean island, it is ranked 2nd.But the most sort after are desi NRI living in United States and other western countries.Here are some beautiful photo collection of NRI desi girls enjoying their holidays aboard in their swimwear and bikini. Hope you too enjoy. In hubPages, there are several hubs devoted to NRI girls - Non-Resident Indians. Photo collection of girls who have migrated aboard couple of generation ago are most wanted on the net. In various forum , social networking sites, there are such hot collection of photos - some are partying girls - and a lot more are on the beach side. They are willing to pose in seductive dress to please the ever hungry India young boys.for those young boys, presenting here are some hot collection of NRI - our own Non-resident Indian girls partying aboard. The original desi girls are either born and brought up there or have moved years ago!Enjoy and send in your comments. Also you can add or send you own such photos for inclusion into my Gallery No.2. There is large population of Indian who are living aboard. Most favored are the ones who are in the United States, followed by Non-resident Indians in Gulf countries like Saudi Arabia, United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Bahrain, Kuwait etc...Even more popular are the NRI girls. They tend to live their life to its fullest. They do freak out and enjoy their life. Here is Photo Set of NRI desi girls enjoying their holidays aboard. Some are in bikinis and at sea. artying is cool! That was the trend until recently. Every other person on earth wanted to be seen at one party or the other. And the trend of appearing in Page 3 was rampant across all cities and even towns! Web is place where you can find photos of all those partying bellys! These pictures have become most watched photos on the internet. Especially the class of Indians, who are deprived of party culture! They would lay their eyes to any party photo of sexy dressed party girls and women!You might be dreaming about joining such parties and cheers with those sexy willing party girls! Partying is considered COOL! But that was till recently. There is too much partying going on these days. And party is being turning to be uncool. Celebrities are not interested any more in partying – even if they do party, they make sure that their pictures are not clicked and published in page 3! They simply resort to PLEASE PHOTO MAT LO! Tack ticks.But certain sections of Indian audience still admire Partying Girls and their pictures. Web is a place where you can find all kinds of parties and partying girls. Page3 Girls and women are too willing to be photographed and published in the web. Presentng to you here is some of the Parting girls photos which did not find way to Page 3!Till recently partying and socializing was considered an opportunity to display the designer cloths and taste you are into. But partying days are over. Several celebrities have given up partying. And they don’t want to seen in every party happening in the city!“Work hard, party harder” is no more valid these days! People tend to be choosy in going to parties these days. They wanted to have quality time when it comes to spending their time at the party.These party girls wanted to be seen less and less – and be in demand always. Saree Photos of Real Life Indian Girls is my special episode for my Fans Club Members. Photos of girls in saree especially excluding actress that is nonactress photos is a very difficult thing. The albums and photos that i got from my friends in india helped me create this photo gallery of very nice pictures which are of normal life and it may also seem sexy to people beased on their likes. If you have not yet joined my club which is completely free, see my profile page. More cllections of photos of actress and saree and set mundu specials will be coming very soon. Tamila and Malayalam has got lot of beautiful people who are beautiful that celebrities. Everyone of you will love to see the best collection of Non Resident Beautiful Indian Girls Photos. Indian actress will be nothing before girls like this abroad. I am aslo such a girl who is in Dubai so i know what will be inthe minds of them. Enjoying every minute is the policy of such teens, They have lot of money with them given by parents which they want to finish some way by giving party to their friends or attending marriages. Indian Girls in Dubai Hot Pictures Series 40. By now everyone has seen most of my photos collection of celebrities and housewives as i have been hubbing for the past 10 months. New face models becoem popular through albums and i also make their photo galleries but my fans are more interseted with photos of Real life Situation Photos.Indian girls will be the main essence in these hubs. May be you think that they are models or actress. They are not at all celebrities or any well known actress, but they are ordinary ever loving bauties who are just married. India is always rich with beauties of this kind and in these editions most of these women are from rich families and these pictures were taken by them when they were on pleasure trips or tours to places for enjoying their luxurious life. Saree photos showing the traditional value of Indian culture is also included so that its memories will not fad away on seeing modern dress like jeans and salwars. Let me join Kathy and Mark in welcoming you to this meeting on Adolescent Girls and Cross Generational Transactional Sex. Apologies for not being able to join you this morning. What I will try to do in my talk this afternoon is to build a bridge between the morning’s discussion on the prevalence and associated risks of this phenomenon and the discussions you will have in the afternoon which I understand will focus on what to do about this problem and how to move ahead. Let’s begin with some of the facts that I think were established this morning. First, we now know that cross generational transactional sex is a reality and may be more widely prevalent than we imagined in some settings and not as widely prevalent as we imagined in other settings. Second, we now know that the nature of these relationships is far more complex that we first believed. They range all the way from consensual relationships to coercive relationships, from relationships that benefit both parties, economically, socially, and/or sexually to those that are exploitative in nature. And third, we now know that sexual relationships between young adolescent women and older men pose a significant risk for younger women, a risk of HIV and other STDs. All these facts were brought home to me somewhat harshly almost ten years ago during a visit to Ibadan University in Nigeria. I vividly remember a conversation I had with five teenage girls, between the ages of 17 to 19 years, who quite bluntly told me that they and many of their friends were in relationships with more than one man simultaneously. Upon enquiring further I learned that it was common for them to have one boyfriend who was their age who was the romantic interest but was likely to be a temporary relationship, another couple of men who served, as they called them, as “spare tires” who were typically somewhat older, fun to be with, and had the money to fulfill their teenage wants – lipstick, handbags, nail polish, etc -- and sometimes, if they were lucky, a third type, the man who they ultimately hoped to marry who was likely to be a good, reliable, stable person but not always fun. I remember listening to them with some curiosity and with the dispassionate interest of a researcher, wondering whether this choice of options meant that the girls were truly empowered or whether these were false options, an illusion of empowerment that in reality was a symptom of being trapped in a society with patriarchal and commercial values. I asked whether they were aware of the health risks involved and whether they used condoms. Feeling somewhat patronized by my question, one of them replied: “Don’t worry, we take care of ourselves. Condoms are not always possible, so we make sure we are safe from infection by taking two tablets of penicillin before each date.” Now as the mother of a 17 year old daughter, I am much less dispassionate in the face of such statements – anxious and terrified would be a more accurate description. Terrified of adolescents’ almost universal need for adventure and their sense of immortality, combined with a supposedly pragmatic, but not always informed, problem solving attitude that is cleverly designed to deny or reject any possibility of future pain or other hurtful consequences! Those of you who are parents of teenagers know what I mean. It is from this viewpoint, that of a mother of a teenage daughter, that I now see three other realities associated with this phenomenon of cross generational, transactional sex. The first reality is that this issue, more than most others, tempts us to blur the lines between the dictates of our personal morality and our professional, public health goals. And the second reality is that the unequal balance of power that typically characterizes most gender relations is exacerbated in cross-generational sexual relations by the large age and income differentials that are typical in such relationships. This extreme inequality puts adolescent women at risk of not just HIV infection and other STDs, but also violence, low self esteem, and warped and unhealthy social and psychological development. And the third reality is that the transactional nature of these relationships is in part a mimicking of the many societal institutions, both in the North and in the South, that treat a woman’s sexuality as a marketable commodity. Let us pause to reflect upon the implications of each of these three realities because I believe that in order to be effective our responses to the phenomenon of cross generational transactional sex must take them into account. Public Health Imperatives versus Morality: Let us begin with the first reality. We have all noticed that a blurring of morality with public health imperatives occurs, not just when discussing this particular type of adolescent sexual activity, but when there is any public discussion of adolescents having sex! There is something instinctive, almost primal, which makes us as adults not want to think of adolescents as sexual beings. We now know the costs of such instinctive behavior. Strong societal norms of virginity before marriage, we know, paradoxically puts young women at risk by restricting their access to information on sex and reproductive health services because they are worried that they will be thought to be sexually active. Also when strong strictures of abstinence until marriage occur in the context of a culture of silence and shame that surrounds sex, the problem is further magnified. As Deborah Haffner, ex-President of Seicus recently said in discussing the situation in the U.S. “What does it say about us as a country if we believe that sex is so dirty, that we must save it for the one we love.” Let us be clear—warning pre-adolescents of the risks of early and unsafe sexuality and promoting abstinence and delayed sexual debut during adolescence is the right thing to do – BUT such programs must be accompanied by full information about sex and how adolescents can protect themselves once they are sexually active. It is clear that in this matter we cannot let a misinterpretation of morality and religion, or for that matter our politics, stand in the way of this public health imperative. It would be immoral to do so. We know the value of information and we know through research that information on sexuality or access to sexual health services does not cause promiscuity. As one young gentleman at the International AIDS Conference in Barcelona so eloquently put it: If we believe condoms cause promiscuity, we must believe that umbrellas cause rain! But in order for sex education to seem real and meaningful to adolescents, it must go beyond the pure public health goals of disease prevention to the promotion of positive and pleasurable sex that is rooted in values that are fundamental to both AIDS prevention and to healthy personal development –I refer here to the values of consensual, respectful, responsible, and mutually satisfying sex. Sex education that is restricted to mere facts without allowing for interactive discussion about the values that are critical for healthy intimacy, does adolescents a grave disservice. Grounding information about sex in human values is particularly important if we are to successfully address the problem of cross generational transactional sex. It is also important to remember that there is a clear distinction between strictures of morality that threaten serious consequences if not adhered to and messages that underscore the need for caring and responsibility in sexual interactions. While the former instills fear and undermines self confidence, the latter provides the basis for healthy development. But for us to do any of this we must, as a first step, do all we can to end the silence and shame that surrounds sex. One way to do this is to encourage leaders from all sectors of society, who are credible and reputable to speak up about the benefits to our children and to society as a whole of talking openly and plainly about sex and plesu. At ICRW we are currently using this method of working with local leaders and spokespersons to break the silence on other taboo and sensitive subjects such as domestic violence in India and stigma about HIV/AIDS in Ethiopia, Zambia, and Tanzania, in an attempt to bring about normative change. In the case of domestic violence, this approach worked well to make the issue more visible in public discourse in India. The results for stigma have yet to be measured though we are confident that it will catalyze change in attitudes over time. Moving now to the second reality—Consequences of an Unequal Balance of Power for Health, Development, and Self Esteem: Cross generational relationships are a cause for concern not only because the age differential increases the probability that young women will be exposed to an HIV infected partner but also because the large age differential exacerbates the already existing imbalance of power that is typical in gender relations and in heterosexual relationships. This inequality can greatly compromise a young woman’s ability to control resources or make decisions that are favorable for her. The consequences are noticeable not only in terms of a reduced ability to negotiate protection against HIV and other STDs, but also in terms of increased vulnerability to sexual coercion, violence, and lowered self esteem. Thus, the goal of our efforts should not be just to increase the use of condoms in cross-generation relationships but to also reduce cross-generational relationships that exacerbate an inequality in the balance of power. In this context it is important to take note that in much of the developing world cross-generational sex most often occurs within marriage, since a large age differential between a woman and her husband is an accepted norm. Yet, marital relationships are often left out of discussions on cross generational sex. This is particularly problematic in high prevalence countries where the risk faced by a young wife due to the age differential within marriage, is likely to be the same as that in a non-marital cross generational relationship. In fact, it has been argued that young women have less leverage to negotiate protection against both disease and pregnancy within marriage than in non-marital relationships. Thus, any recommendations we make to reduce the risks associated with cross generational sex must include the situation of married adolescent girls. And any policy recommendation to decrease the age of marriage because of a delusionary belief that marriage is protective for girls, must be actively challenged. Ultimately, though, the phenomenon of cross generational transactional sex conjures up images of older men preying on the innocence of young women and exploiting their bodies. While we know this is not always true, there is a need to ensure that efforts to reduce this phenomenon include programs to promote sexual and family responsibility among men. In an effort to do just this, ICRW will soon be working with three field offices of UNICEF to implement a communications and education strategy on the role and responsibility of men in reducing girls’ and young women’s vulnerability to HIV. The idea is to appeal to men as fathers, fathers-in-law and grandfathers and to call upon them to assist in confronting the costs of the double standard of sexuality that currently requires girls to be faithful, passive, and innocent in matters regarding sex and boys to have variety in sexual partners and be sexually expert. The program will appeal to adult men to join hands with adult women to assist in empowering the girls of their nations through an intergenerational collaborative effort so that young girls can fully develop their potential without fear of infection, violence, or sexual exploitation. This approach of creating opportunities for youth and adults to work together to bring abouial change is one that ICRW has explored fairly recently. Exactly a year ago we invited 20 adult and youth leaders from around the world to together come up with recommendations for breaking the cycle of poverty that entraps generation after generation. With the help of resource persons and creative facilitators, the participants generated actionable recommendations. But more importantly, they experienced the value of joining hands across generations to solve common problems. I believe that such an exercise can be usefully replicated at the community level to tackle the problem of cross generational transactional sex. Moving on to the third reality—Sex as a Marketable Commodity: Perhaps the most shocking component of the phenomenon we are discussing today is the pragmatic way in which young women seem to be using sex as a marketable commodity in relationships that do not fall within the traditional definition of commercial sex. The automatic conclusion we draw from this is that women do this for economic survival. What we have learned is that in reality there is a continuum of economic need and that although survival motivates some young women to engage in transactional sex, for others the motives seem more akin to economic security or economic comfort – wants rather than needs. The underlying problem though is the same: women have restricted access to financial resources and they rightly perceive access to money and all that it buys as the basis for gaining power in society. This was brought home to us most starkly in a study that ICRW, in collaboration with Engender Health and in-country organizations, recently conducted in Nepal. The adolescent and adult women in those communities had a clear understanding of, and talked articulately about, the paramount importance of financial resources for acquiring power in domestic relationships, and their aspirations to acquire egree of economic stability and comfort. Yet they did not have the mobility, the education, or the skills to acquire the jobs or other opportunities to fulfill their aspirations. Many of the adolescent girls in the sample, thus, pragmatically viewed the exchange of sex for money, gifts or long-term security as the one viable and efficient way to meet their goals. Although shocking, such an attitude should come as no surprise. Societal institutions in many countries treat women’s sexuality and its outcomes as an economic commodity to be exchanged or sold. Marriage, for example, frequently involves a financial transaction or barter based on the bride’s sexual purity or proven fertility. The behavior of adolescent women is a mere reflection of this same ethic. Providing young women with the necessary education and skills to earn a livelihood and have an economic future, is likely to contribute to a reduction in the incidence of the transactional sex by directly giving women an alternative way to meet their economic needs or even their teenage wants. More importantly, though, the opportunity to have a livelihood can have an indirect impact on the incidence of transactional sex by giving young women hope for a future, a goal to be attained, and a stronger sense of self. At the international level, there is now an UN-led initiative on youth employment initiated by the Secretary-General himself and cosponsored by the International Labor Organization and the World Bank, which seeks to work with national governments to develop policies and programs to provide youth with the skills and opportunities necessary to earn a livelihood. ICRW is currently working as a part of this international initiative to determine concrete ways in which women, particularly young women, can have equal opportunities to access economic opportunities. While such initiatives to increase employment and educational opportunities are indeed necessary, we are now learning that some educational settings may increase young girls’ risk and that employment opportunities may sometimes have the effect of increasing young women’s risk of acquiring STDs, including HIV. We are learning through research that ICRW is conducting in collaboration with Princeton University and Mahidol Univeristy in Thailand, that when employment requires young women to leave home and migrate to distant places where there are no protective social networks or access to services and information, their vulnerability to infection and exploitation may be affected. It is also important to recognize that single types of economic interventions at the micro level, such as microfinance programs, while necessary may not be sufficient to bring about the economic empowerment required to reduce the incidence of transactional sex. What is required is for such micro level changes to be accompanied by macro level policy interventions that can at an aggregate level change the nature of educational and economic opportunities for women and thereby reduce the inequality of power in gender relations. As we meet here, another meeting is being hosted at ICRW that is analyzing trade policies, such as GATS and TRIPS , and their implications for reproductive health services and technologies. In conclusion, let me return to the young women I met in Nigeria and remind ourselves that the cross generational transactional sex is a complex phenomenon, associated with a wide range of underlying causes and motives, and with a variety of potential consequences and costs for young women. Any single intervention, as a result, will not suffice. As you discuss the recommendations for reducing this phenomenon this afternoon, I would encourage you to think of comprehensive efforts that integrate for example, values-based sex education with appropriate economic interventions for adolescent women, while also targeting adult men and women and encouraging them to work together to ensure the healthy social, sexual, and psychological development of their daughters. To know the exact combination of interventions that will be work in any particular context, we will need further research – research that is informed by today’s discussion. But let us draw from lessons we have learned from past experience which have shown us that economic interventions alone do not suffice to move sex workers away from prostitution. Instead, such economic interventions provide sex workers with much needed additional income. Sex workers explain that giving up prostitution is not that easy. For most it is a life style that is difficult to leave because of the indelible stigma that it leaves on those who engage in prostitution which makes it difficult for them to be accepted in more mainstream occupations. Similarly, just sex education alone for young women who are poor is not enough. In the ultimate analysis, reducing the occurrence of this phenomenon is going to require normative change in the societies in which it is prevalent. Although social change typically takes time, I am convinced that because AIDS is fatal, the social processes necessary to bring about the normative changes that are required are more likely to happen now than ever before. An essential ingredient is community mobilization and strong leadership – leaders who express a lack of tolerance for such relationships, who communicate to young women the importance of valuing their bodies and their sexuality, who foster an open and frank discussion of sex with adolescents, and who work to create equal access to educational and economic opportunities for young women. The challenge for us is to find ways to facilitate such mobilization and leadership. A challenge we must meet, because without that, we will continue to sacrifice our daughters to this terrible epidemic. This meeting is a first step in the right direction. It is important to maintain this momentum and put in place the necessary research initiatives, advocacy campaigns, and policy and project interventions that will go beyond describing the problem to determining what to do about it. I wish you luck in your discussion this afternoon as you seek to identify the priorities for the future. Thank you.



Saturday, 4 July 2009

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engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis: * the tendency to desire what is best for the other, * sympathy and empathy, * honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart, * mutual understanding.In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association can be thought of as spanning across the same continuum. The study of friendship is included in sociology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social psychology, social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles. See Interpersonal relationshipsFriendship in historyFriendship is considered one of the central human experiences, and has been sanctified by all major religions. The Epic of Gilgamesh, a Babylonian poem that is among the earliest known literary works in history, chronicles in great depth the friendship between Gilgamesh and Enkidu. The Greco-Roman had, as paramount examples, the friendship of Orestes and Pylades, and, in Virgil's Aeneid, the friendship of Euryalus and Nisus, and lastly Robert and Aimee. The Abrahamic faiths have the story of David and Jonathan. Friendship played an important role in German Romanticism. A good example for this is Schiller's Die Bürgschaft. The Christian Gospels state that Jesus Christ declared, "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."(John 15:13).In philosophy, Aristotle is known for his discussion (in the Nicomachean Ethics) of philia, which is usually (somewhat misleadingly) translated as "friendship," and certainly includes friendship, though is a much broader concept.Aristotle's conception of friendship conceived of three distinct categories or 'tiers' thereof. As Professor Bill Mullen (of Bard College) lectured: "first, there are your 'business partners,' those who benefit financially from their 'friends' (contemporary theorists and poets reject this definition (c.f. Paul Shepard, who dismisses this relationship as "worship of Mammon.")) second, there are your 'drinking buddies' -- people you have fun with. And, third, people with whom you pursue virtue, or 'Arete.'"A group of friends consists of two or more people who are in a mutually pleasing relationship engendering a sentiment of camaraderie, exclusivity, and mutual trust. There are varying degrees of "closeness" between friends. Hence, some people choose to differentiate and categorize friendships based on this sentiment.[edit] RomeCicero had his own beliefs on friendship. Cicero believed that in order to have a true friendship with someone there must be all honesty and truth. If there isn’t, then this isn’t a true friendship. In that case, friends must be one hundred percent honest with each other and put one hundred percent of their trust in the other person. Cicero also believed that for people to be friends with another person, they must do things without the expectation that their friend will have to repay them. He also believes that if a friend is about to do something wrong, and something that goes against your morals, you shouldn’t compromise your morals. You must explain why what they are going to do is wrong, and help them to see what the right thing to do is, because Cicero believes that ignorance is the cause of evil. Finally the last thing that Cicero believed was that the reason that a friendship comes to an end is because one person in that friendship has become bad. (On Friendship, Cicero)[edit] RussiaThe relationship is constructed differently in different cultures. In Russia, for example, one typically accords very few people the status of "friend". These friendships, however, make up in intensity what they lack in number. Friends are entitled to call each other by their first names alone, and to use diminutives. A norm of polite behaviour is addressing "acquaintances" by full first name plus patronymic. These could include relationships which elsewhere would be qualified as real friendships, such as workplace relationships of long standing, neighbors with whom one shares an occasional meal and visit, and so on. Physical contact between friends was expected, and friends, whether or not of the same sex, would embrace, sometimes kiss and walk in public with their arms around each other, or arm-in-arm, or hand-in-hand.[edit] AsiaIn the Middle East and Central Asia, male friendships, while less restricted than in Russia, tend also to be reserved and respectable in nature. They may use nick names and diminutive forms of their first names.[edit] Modern westIn the Western world, intimate physical contact has been sexualized in the public mind over the last one hundred years and is considered almost taboo in friendship, especially between two males. However, stylized hugging or kissing may be considered acceptable, depending on the context (see, for example, the kiss the tramp gives the kid in The Kid). In Spain and other Mediterranean countries, men may embrace each other in public and kiss each other on the cheek. This is not limited solely to older generations but rather is present throughout all generations. In young children throughout the modern Western world, friendship, usually of a homosocial nature, typically exhibits elements of a closeness and intimacy suppressed later in life in order to conform to societal standards.[edit] Decline of friendships in the U.S.According to a 2006 study documented in the journal the American Sociological Review, Americans are thought to be suffering a loss in the quality and quantity of close friendships since at least 1985.[1] The study states 25% of Americans have no close confidants, and the average total number of confidants per citizen has dropped from four to two.According to the study: * Americans' dependence on family as a safety net went up from 57% to 80% * Americans' dependence on a partner or spouse went up from 5% to 9% * Research has found a link between fewer friendships (especially in quality) and psychological and physiological regressionIn recent times, it is postulated modern American friendships have lost the force and importance they had in antiquity. C. S. Lewis for example, in his The Four Loves, writes:“ To the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it. We admit of course that besides a wife and family a man needs a few 'friends'. But the very tone of the admission, and the sort of acquaintanceships which those who make it would describe as 'friendships', show clearly that what they are talking about has very little to do with that Philía which Aristotle classified among the virtues or that Amicitia on which Cicero wrote a book. ”Likewise, Paul Halsall claims that:“ The intense emotional and affective relationships described in the past as "non-sexual" cannot be said to exist today: modern heterosexual men can be buddies, but unless drunk they cannot touch each other, or regularly sleep together. They cannot affirm that an emotional affective relationship with another man is the centrally important relationship in their lives. It is not going too far, is it, to claim that friendship – if used to translate Greek philia or Latin amicitia – hardly exists among heterosexual men in modern Western society. ”Mark McLelland, writing in the Western Buddhist Review under his Buddhist name of Dharmachari Jñanavira (Article), more directly points to homophobia being at the root of a modern decline in the western tradition of friendship:Hence, in our cultural context where homosexual desire has for centuries been considered sinful, unnatural and a great evil, the experience of homoerotic desire can be very traumatic for some individuals and severely limit the potential for same-sex friendship. The Danish sociologist Henning Bech, for instance, writes of the anxiety which often accompanies developing intimacy between male friends:“ "The more one has to assure oneself that one's relationship with another man is not homosexual, the more conscious one becomes that it might be, and the more necessary it becomes to protect oneself against it. The result is that friendship gradually becomes impossible. ”Their opinion that fear of being, or being seen as, homosexual has killed off western man's ability to form close friendships with other men is shared by Japanese psychologist Doi Takeo, who claims that male friendships in American society are fraught with homosexual anxiety and thus homophobia is a limiting factor stopping men from establishing deep friendships with other men.The suggestion that friendship contains an ineluctable element of erotic desire is not new, but has been advanced by students of friendship ever since the time of the ancient Greeks, where it comes up in the writings of Plato. More recently, the Austrian philosopher Otto Weininger claimed that:“ There is no friendship between men that has not an element of sexuality in it, however little accentuated it may be in the nature of the friendship, and however painful the idea of the sexual element would be. But it is enough to remember that there can be no friendship unless there has been some attraction to draw the men together. Much of the affection, protection, and nepotism between men is due to the presence of unsuspected sexual compatibility. (Sex and Character, 1903) ”Recent western scholarship in gender theory and feminism concurs, as reflected in the writings of Eve Sedgwick in her The Epistemology of the Closet, and Jonathan Dollimore in his Sexual Dissidence and Cultural Change: Augustine to Wilde, Freud to Foucault.[edit] Developmental issuesIn the sequence of the emotional development of the individual, friendships come after parental bonding and before the pair bonding engaged in at the approach of maturity. In the intervening period between the end of early childhood and the onset of full adulthood, friendships are often the most important relationships in the emotional life of the adolescent, and are often more intense than relationships later in life[citation needed]. However making friends seems to trouble lots of people[citation needed]; having no friends can be emotionally damaging in some cases[citation needed]. Sometimes going years without a single friend can lead to suicide[citation needed], however, this affects men more then women. Friendships do not play key role in suicidal thoughts of boys.[2] A long time of friendship may also result in marriage; too much friendship is followed by a compromise[citation needed].A study by researchers from Purdue University found that post secondary education (e.g. university) friendships last longer than the friendships before it.[citation needed][edit] Types of friendshipsBest friend (or close friend): a person(s) with whom someone shares extremely strong interpersonal ties with as a friend.Acquaintance: a friend, but sharing of emotional ties isn't present. An example would be a coworker with whom you enjoy eating lunch, but would not look to for emotional support.Soulmate: the name given to someone who is considered the ultimate, true, and eternal half of the other's soul, in which the two are now and forever meant to be together.Pen pal: people who have a relationship via postal correspondence. They may or may not have met each other in person and may share either love, friendship, or simply an acquaintance between each other.Internet friendship: a form of friendship or romance which takes place over the Internet.Comrade: means "ally", "friend", or "colleague" in a military or (usually) left-wing political connotation. This is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Former New York Times war correspondent Chris Hedges wrote:“ We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love — the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. [...] Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades.[3] ”As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, many comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common.Casual relationship or "Friends with benefits": the sexual or near-sexual and emotional relationship between two people who don't expect or demand to share a formal romantic relationship. In the U.S., this is considered "a fling".Boston marriage: an American term used in the nineteenth and twentieth centuries to denote two women that lived together in the same household independent of male support. Relationships were not necessarily sexual. It was used to quell fears of lesbians after World War I.Blood brother or blood sister: may refer to people related by birth, or a circle of friends who swear loyalty by mingling the blood of each member together.Open relationship: a relationship, usually between two people, that agree each partner is free to have sexual intercourse with others outside the relationship. When this agreement is made between a married couple, it's called an open marriage.Roommate: a person who shares a room or apartment (flat) with another person and do not share a familial or romantic relationship.Imaginary friend

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